"Walking away taught me that some people can only love you when you're small. They need you to stay exactly where you are because your growth threatens their sense of control." This is so true!
This really bit me right in the feelers. I was Afraid of letting go of a trauma bond, and person who I thought I was going to marry. I was deeply in love, and it was my first love. There were definitely a few red flags in the relationship that's for sure. The breakup was really heartbreaking.
This read like a breakup letter I forgot to send to half my past. The part about clinging not out of love but out of fear really struck me. Fear of abandonment. Fear of being unchosen. Fear of vanishing once we stop performing.
Some people only loved the version of me that kept saying yes. When I started choosing boundaries, they called it betrayal. But like you said, that wasn’t love. That was control wearing the costume of loyalty.
Letting go is not just grief. It is resurrection. Sometimes the tomb you walk out of looks like a dinner table full of people who only applauded the version of you that stayed small.
"Walking away taught me that some people can only love you when you're small. They need you to stay exactly where you are because your growth threatens their sense of control." This is so true!
Great read, Sarah.
Brilliant read ! Absolutely loved it !
Thanks Pelle 🫶
We waste do much precious time wearing a mask so that others may feel comfortable. Great post, Sarah!
Thanks so much Rea.
I like it, you have explained an extraordinary thought.
Thank you
I’m thoroughly enjoying your writing! Thank you!!!
This really bit me right in the feelers. I was Afraid of letting go of a trauma bond, and person who I thought I was going to marry. I was deeply in love, and it was my first love. There were definitely a few red flags in the relationship that's for sure. The breakup was really heartbreaking.
I’m so sorry you went through this. My daughter is going through this now with the man she thought she was going to marry. It’s hard to watch.
Thank you so much I really appreciate that. 🙏 I'm truly sorry to hear that your daughter is going through this I'm sending her lots of hugs. 🤗
Excellent post. You seem to write about experiences I have had to deal with. Reading this, was the glue that sealed “my what ifs”. 🌸
This read like a breakup letter I forgot to send to half my past. The part about clinging not out of love but out of fear really struck me. Fear of abandonment. Fear of being unchosen. Fear of vanishing once we stop performing.
Some people only loved the version of me that kept saying yes. When I started choosing boundaries, they called it betrayal. But like you said, that wasn’t love. That was control wearing the costume of loyalty.
Letting go is not just grief. It is resurrection. Sometimes the tomb you walk out of looks like a dinner table full of people who only applauded the version of you that stayed small.